3 Ways to Change Your World With a Wonder Woman Mindset

Mindset is powerful. It determines values, construction of meaning, where you place your energy. Everything. It takes into account how you intellectually understand a concept and transforms it into how you live your life. Being open to shifting your mindset, especially about deep-seeded beliefs, is one of the best Wonder Woman traits you can adopt. Let’s look at three mindset shifts you can apply today to start your transformation.

1. Your past does not define your future.

Mindsets take hold at multiple stages in life. Much of what we believe to be true can be traced back to childhood, a time when the world told you who you were and you believed it. The family of Lisa Morales-Hellebo, serial entrepreneur, executive producer of #INCLUDE and founder of REFASHIOND moved from Brooklyn to Westchester, N.Y., when she was a child. Her parents’ intention was to give their children a good life filled with opportunity. But, it didn’t work out so perfectly.

“We were the only brown family in our town for quite a while,” Morales-Hellebo says.

They moved into a neighborhood with a racist who was not afraid to show his disgust, leaving severed deer heads on the Morales-Hellebos’ lawn and beating his children if they had willfully interacted with Morales-Hellebo or her family. Morales-Hellebo realized in her thirties that she had spent a lifetime proving the racists beliefs about her wrong and that it was time to shift what drove her to make an impact on the world.

Just a few years before, Morales-Hellebo met a client, Carmen Ortiz-McGee, a fellow Latina, and they became fast friends. Ortiz-McGee was Morales-Hellebo’s first Latina friend. She brought Morales-Hellebo to a networking event with The Marathon Club, an organization of diverse highly successful leaders, and Morales-Hellebo soon discovered that she herself held bias. “It was the first time I have been exposed to a roomful of black and brown people that were millionaires and billionaires. It was mind-blowing and that shocked me. I couldn’t help but ask, why didn’t I expect this of myself?” Morales-Hellebo says. Meeting so many highly accomplished people who had similar stories to hers but found that they asked themselves different questions and asked those same questions of her: “What are you going to contribute to the world?” Her mindset was shifted forever, and so were her actions.

Morales-Hellobo’s advice on how to adopt a Wonder Woman mindset: Surround yourself with people who fuel you. “[The Marathon Club event] was the first time I really understood the saying ‘your potential is limited or increased by the people with whom you surround yourself.'”

2. Success and failure do not determine your value.

Like Morales-Hellebo, Harriet Minter, journalist and host of the Badass Women’s Hour podcast, held several unconscious biases that trace back to her childhood. Having grown up watching her entrepreneur parents struggle, Minter had a healthy fear of striking out on her own. “I had grown up with firm belief that if you wanted to earn money, you had to work for a company and be paid a regular salary,” Minter says.

Minter’s mindset shift came when, as a journalist for The Guardian, she traveled with a group of female entrepreneurs to New York. The kinship of the entrepreneurs changed her mind about starting her own business. “I started to look at my network differently: who I could team up with, who would help me and who I could help,” Minter says. She has since started freelance writing, consulting and co-hosting the highly successful Badass Women’s Hour podcast. She adopted the practice of creating a monthly MAP (measuring and planning) to set targets and hold herself accountable for achieving them.

Minter’s advice on how to adopt a Wonder Woman mindset: Question your beliefs about what makes a good life — your hang-ups and your actions. “I have become less attached to success and failure. When things don’t work out, I let them go, and when things work, I go with it,” Minter says.

3. Opinions are inputs, not directives.

The biggest mindset shift for both Morales-Hellebo and Minter came when they were able to shift away from internalizing other people’s opinions of them to neutralizing them. Whenever I am coaching female entrepreneurs and corporate executives, the feedback they receive from others is always a topic for discussion. While I am a huge fan of soliciting, gathering and analyzing feedback, I caution about what feedback actually is by starting with what feedback is not. Feedback is rarely about the person receiving it and so much more about the person giving it. When someone tells you what he or she thinks of you, your business, your product or anything else, what he or she is really saying could be reworded to, “This is important to me.”

The work of Carol Gilligan, the founder of feminist leadership theory, teaches us that women are innately relational in decision-making. Women tend to consider the impact of a decision in relation to the people it will impact. It’s no wonder that women take feedback and opinions of others into consideration. That is the power of Wonder Women just like you: You use opinions — even when it’s disguised as constructive feedback — as data points instead of as directives.

My advice on how to adopt a Wonder Woman mindset: Accept the context you are in but don’t let it define you. As a board member who holds three director seats on public technology companies told me, “You have to accept that you are dealing in an imperfect world. Some people are going to be comfortable dealing with me — some people are not — but I’m my own judge.”

Article courtesy of: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/297228

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